Author Archives: hodders

About hodders

Husband and proud father of two daughters. Now a widower. Trying to balance between not dwelling on Juliet's death, but telling the world how much I loved her. Tricky.

Getting ready to sail again

Juliet died six years ago today. This is an extract from a book called “Life Lessons: Things I Wished I’d Learned Earlier” by Lesley Garner: Don’t expect to go from shock and misery to happiness overnight. depending on how deep … Continue reading

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Klimt, The Cure and Rubik’s Cube

I had a short Facebook exchange with my dad today. He posted a rather dull photo of some trees and I remarked that it was very “Klimt-esque”. Klimt was a painter chappie who painted forest scenes among several other subjects. Juliet … Continue reading

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Unicorns don’t exist

Today’s title is taken from a piece by the comedian Isy Suttie that appeared in today’s Guardian: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/aug/07/prince-harry-is-right-hard-to-talk-about-grief I sent it to my girls: I’m concerned they don’t talk about their mum much/at all/to me. In my work as a counsellor … Continue reading

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53 and still counting

Juliet would have been 53 today, January 2nd. Just a few random pictures. There’s plenty more. Happy birthday love. S x

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2015 in review

My 100th post; a summary of the blog in 2015: The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2015 annual report for this blog. Here’s an excerpt: A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 1,300 … Continue reading

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The Goldilocks Principle

Four years and still counting. It still hurts, not too much these days if I’m honest, but just enough. One of the sobering things about bereavement is that time marches on, regardless of the bereaved person. We had holidayed in the Australian paradise of … Continue reading

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She would have been 52 today

I’m conscious that this blog could deteriorate into one of those “round-robin” letters that you used to get at Christmas (and I was guilty of sending them many years ago, pre-email). It’s not meant to be about our family per … Continue reading

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